Looking to change your life for the better, not sure where to start? here are some self discovery questions, to help quick start your journey
NOTE: I am not a qualified mental health professional. If you need professional help, please contact your doctor or Therapist. The information here is not to replace that of medical advice.
In each of our lives at some point, we reach an all-time low, we reach a point where we feel like things are only getting worse, we feel hopeless and stuck, lost and confused.
I do not know what brought you here, I do not know your situation, but I know that, because you clicked on this title you are ready to turn your life around for the better.
When I was at one of my lowest point in my life, I asked myself these tough questions.
1. Do I want to stay here?
We live in a world where were constantly on the go, everybody must move everybody must advance and look like they are constantly progressing.
But while society says this, you do not have to.
In this moment it is okay to be still, it is okay to go through your emotions, meditate on the situation, and seek help where needed.
I do not want to promote stagnation, but I do want to promote, ACCEPTANCE and CONFRONTATION!
Do not run away or hide from what you are dealing with, it may be painful. But dealing with what you are going through head on, will ensure you do not end up going round circles, avoiding the situation.
2. What brought me to this point?
People often blame their job, family, partner, friend or even their religion on their situation, but these things are often not what you should be blaming your situation on.
Please, do not get me wrong, these factors may the reason for the way your feel at the moment.
But If they are not, ask yourself if the situation you are in right now is self-inflicted?
This is not a moment of deflection, if you really want to change your life around for the better, be honest with yourself, if this was something you caused, be analytical and reflective.
Have you put yourself in this predicament before? Is this a pattern? …if this is a pattern, is this a pattern you want to continue in your life?
3. What do I actually want?
Being at the lowest point in your life, you begin to recognise the things that are missing that you absolutely need in your life.
What do you want out of life? happiness, a successful career, relationships or confidence?
I emphasise the importance of YOU in this question, because this is all about you not what your parents or partners want.
You need to know what you want, you’re why, because it will drive you or rather motivate you’re to turn your life around.
When you being to take what you want out of life, you can be the best you for everybody else.
4. What do I need to let go of?
People often do not talk about this, but when you are at your lowest point and you decide to move forward and take control over your life, you need to FOCUS.
Specifically, you need to focus on yourself, removing distractions and negative things that will hinder you from moving forward.
So, what do you need to let go if?
Is it your partner, that friend, that type of food?
There are so many negative things in our lives that are constantly stopping us or distracting us from our path to happiness, make sure you DETECT what yours it and remove it!
And if you can’t remove it, how are you dimming that negative presence not making it block your pathway.
5. What do I need to let go of?
When I was at my lowest point, I told myself I NEVER want to be at this point again.
I promised myself that I would change my life for the better, I would never reach this low point.
Personally, I journaled a lot, I wrote about how I felt, I wrote things I noticed about my coping mechanism, I noted things I needed to work on emotionally about myself.
I became more self-aware, and decided to transform my mental state, to create mechanism that ensured I dealt better with situations and events that happened in my life.
Listen negative events or situations in life will ALWAYS COME! The question is HOW are you dealing with it.
What habits or coping mechanism are you creating to ensure you never reach this low point.
And if you do reach this low point again, how will you know how to EXACTLY deal with it better than the first time you were in this point.
It’s time to take back control and change your life for the better!
Drop a comment below about questions you had to ask yourself, It could help other xo